Thursday, April 28, 2011
HW 49-Comments on Your the Best of your Break HW.
Allwyn,
Overall great post dealing with your thoughts and feeling on the topic of Death but what stuck out to me the most was the end of your post. Interviewing your parents was a good approach and a good source of information for you to gather from. As well it gave me the idea that the topic is a very unsettling to be talked about in your family. When you mentioned the topic to your parents they had a very negative reaction to words Death. Just as I can imagine it is a very uncomfortable topic to be discussed but I have a kind of different view now that I myself has had more classes in which in groups we have discussed the topic casually and I have gathered more natural feeling towards the topic. What I mean is that your parents show a perfect example of the socially accepted way of discussing the topic of death. Furthermore to feel uncomfortable and not right to talk about it but on the other hand I fell that people should embrace this inevitable topic and discuss it more freely and openly and not be so disinclined at the thought of it. But regardless of my views on this topic you have a great post discussing your thoughts and families thoughts on the topic of Death.
-Brendan.
Ariel,
I found it very brave of you to have been able to write about such intimate information about you family. I feel that it is very empowering for you to be sharing your thoughts and being able to share your families at the same time. But I feel that you should talk to your grandmother more about topics in which she is uncomfortable about. I say this because I too have relatives that have had problems in the past with talking about passed family members. As well I feel that there is a good result that comes from discussing and opening up with your family about passed relatives and I have found it to be a great form of closure and a cure to the grief that some people let hang over them when they lose a loved one. But don't let my view feel pushed on to you I'm only giving you an idea of how to approach the issue and I in no way want you to feel like I'm pushing it on you. But regardless I like how you set up your post with the questions in one column and the answers in another, it was very easy for me to read through everything great post.
-Brendan.
Ariel,
I would like to thank you for actually getting the point of my post number one religion has a extremely big part that pretty much defines the whole process after death within the topic of The Care of the Death. As well I would like to thank you fro agreeing with me on my point that religion is a big topic that pretty much lays out a whole new story when the process of the Care of the Dead is carried out. Also I can relate to you in the way of faith to religion I to am not a very religions person although I have been to Catholic school and have had the Catholic religion pushed on me my entire life. One thing that stuck out to me in your comment was that you haven't been to any funerals in your life I find that a little hard to believe , so let me pose this question to you was it a choice for you not to go to any funerals or have you just not had any immediate family members taken from you?
-Brendan
Overall great post dealing with your thoughts and feeling on the topic of Death but what stuck out to me the most was the end of your post. Interviewing your parents was a good approach and a good source of information for you to gather from. As well it gave me the idea that the topic is a very unsettling to be talked about in your family. When you mentioned the topic to your parents they had a very negative reaction to words Death. Just as I can imagine it is a very uncomfortable topic to be discussed but I have a kind of different view now that I myself has had more classes in which in groups we have discussed the topic casually and I have gathered more natural feeling towards the topic. What I mean is that your parents show a perfect example of the socially accepted way of discussing the topic of death. Furthermore to feel uncomfortable and not right to talk about it but on the other hand I fell that people should embrace this inevitable topic and discuss it more freely and openly and not be so disinclined at the thought of it. But regardless of my views on this topic you have a great post discussing your thoughts and families thoughts on the topic of Death.
-Brendan.
Ariel,
I found it very brave of you to have been able to write about such intimate information about you family. I feel that it is very empowering for you to be sharing your thoughts and being able to share your families at the same time. But I feel that you should talk to your grandmother more about topics in which she is uncomfortable about. I say this because I too have relatives that have had problems in the past with talking about passed family members. As well I feel that there is a good result that comes from discussing and opening up with your family about passed relatives and I have found it to be a great form of closure and a cure to the grief that some people let hang over them when they lose a loved one. But don't let my view feel pushed on to you I'm only giving you an idea of how to approach the issue and I in no way want you to feel like I'm pushing it on you. But regardless I like how you set up your post with the questions in one column and the answers in another, it was very easy for me to read through everything great post.
-Brendan.
Ariel,
I would like to thank you for actually getting the point of my post number one religion has a extremely big part that pretty much defines the whole process after death within the topic of The Care of the Death. As well I would like to thank you fro agreeing with me on my point that religion is a big topic that pretty much lays out a whole new story when the process of the Care of the Dead is carried out. Also I can relate to you in the way of faith to religion I to am not a very religions person although I have been to Catholic school and have had the Catholic religion pushed on me my entire life. One thing that stuck out to me in your comment was that you haven't been to any funerals in your life I find that a little hard to believe , so let me pose this question to you was it a choice for you not to go to any funerals or have you just not had any immediate family members taken from you?
-Brendan
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
HW 48-Family Perspectives on the Care of the Dead.
When I interviewed my Mother I asked her numerous questions about the topic of death and how she personally dealt with the topic herself as well. What I decided to share my blog is as follows:
I asked my Mother how she personally deals and/or copes with losing a loved one in our family and she told me she just goes through a process of grieving the loved one that she lost and then I proceeded to ask her more questions on specific loved ones that we have both lost in our family but I chose not to include that part. Another question that I asked her was, why do you think people say the best things about people after they are dead? Where did the new found respect come from? Why do we talk so highly of people after they have passed? I asked questions like this. I got her response, she said that I feel its because that they just aren't around any more so they can't have people talking badly about the person who has died or else what would the scene at the funeral be like? Everyone would be out raged at the people talking badly about the deceased individual and therefore the funeral would be ruined. She also said something interesting that caught my ear and I quote, "What else is there to say then good words?" After the interview I thought about those words and couldn't help but agree with what my mother was saying. Asking my brother this question the other day and he said some similar things my mother but I noticed that he said the say phrase that my Mother said. I guessed that that is the result of us being family, maybe thats the reason we could have the same mind set on the topic.
The second person I interviewed in my family was my brother. I had a very long conversation with my brother before this unit even started about the topic of death but this as well is something I would rather share in person rather then on my blog. But one question that I could show on this blog was why some people on different sides on my family have different types of funerals? Before I go on different sides of my family have funerals in churches and some have funerals in funeral parlors. There's just so many differences in the care of the dead in the different sides that of my family practices. So when I asked him this he responded in this way, It's all about religion he told me. He said that my specific people in my family just take their religion more to heart then others in our family. For example my Aunt Caren is a Jehovah's Witness and every year she send me a birthday card that say's "I'm glad you were born" , It never says Happy Birthday because in her religion she refuses to celebrate birthdays. So i guess I should be happy she even acknowledges my birthday at all. But to go on with what my brother was saying, its all about religion. People in my family just take things more to heart and include their religion in the ceremonies and some of them decide not to include religion. It all depends on the immediate family of the deceased individual, it's up to them not the entire family even though they are usually all in attendance. Although something that I noticed as me being in attendance of all of my families funerals I have noticed that regardless of the funeral being at a parlor or a church the words of God and prayers are always spoken at some point in the speeches and conversations at these events as well as blessings at the end of the service. So I guess all of my families funerals are touched by religion in some way even if they aren't at a church.
I asked my Mother how she personally deals and/or copes with losing a loved one in our family and she told me she just goes through a process of grieving the loved one that she lost and then I proceeded to ask her more questions on specific loved ones that we have both lost in our family but I chose not to include that part. Another question that I asked her was, why do you think people say the best things about people after they are dead? Where did the new found respect come from? Why do we talk so highly of people after they have passed? I asked questions like this. I got her response, she said that I feel its because that they just aren't around any more so they can't have people talking badly about the person who has died or else what would the scene at the funeral be like? Everyone would be out raged at the people talking badly about the deceased individual and therefore the funeral would be ruined. She also said something interesting that caught my ear and I quote, "What else is there to say then good words?" After the interview I thought about those words and couldn't help but agree with what my mother was saying. Asking my brother this question the other day and he said some similar things my mother but I noticed that he said the say phrase that my Mother said. I guessed that that is the result of us being family, maybe thats the reason we could have the same mind set on the topic.
The second person I interviewed in my family was my brother. I had a very long conversation with my brother before this unit even started about the topic of death but this as well is something I would rather share in person rather then on my blog. But one question that I could show on this blog was why some people on different sides on my family have different types of funerals? Before I go on different sides of my family have funerals in churches and some have funerals in funeral parlors. There's just so many differences in the care of the dead in the different sides that of my family practices. So when I asked him this he responded in this way, It's all about religion he told me. He said that my specific people in my family just take their religion more to heart then others in our family. For example my Aunt Caren is a Jehovah's Witness and every year she send me a birthday card that say's "I'm glad you were born" , It never says Happy Birthday because in her religion she refuses to celebrate birthdays. So i guess I should be happy she even acknowledges my birthday at all. But to go on with what my brother was saying, its all about religion. People in my family just take things more to heart and include their religion in the ceremonies and some of them decide not to include religion. It all depends on the immediate family of the deceased individual, it's up to them not the entire family even though they are usually all in attendance. Although something that I noticed as me being in attendance of all of my families funerals I have noticed that regardless of the funeral being at a parlor or a church the words of God and prayers are always spoken at some point in the speeches and conversations at these events as well as blessings at the end of the service. So I guess all of my families funerals are touched by religion in some way even if they aren't at a church.
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Sunday, April 17, 2011
HW 46-Initial Thoughts on the Care of the Dead.
When I think of the words "Care of the Dead" the first things that come to my mind are funerals and the friends and family that I have lost and seen being put in the ground six feet under. My personal experience with the topic I feel I have seen the normal amount of death an 18 year old guy is suppose to see now a days but then again I could be wrong. I have seen a few of my friends pass and my fair share of family members unfortunately, and I feel it's not a good topic to dwell on for too long. The way that I have been taught to deal with these occurrences of death when they happen to come upon into my life is to naturally grieve. Everyone has their different ways of grieving, their natural way that comes to them when someone they know is plagued by death. As well when people are touched by death there is a process of reflection and a process of reconciliation but thats another deep topic to be discussed later on. My own personal way of grieving is helping others in my family or people whom are my friends grieve themselves. I feel that to me this is something that assists me very much in my own process of dealing with a personal loss of a relative and/or friend. Some social norms that I know of about dealing with the care of the dead are pretty much self explanatory, things like open casket or closed casket which is also referred to as an "Wake", then you got the burial ceremony, and as well as cremation, but then you wouldn't have everything else you would just have a cremation and then maybe a releasing of the ashes ceremony in place of a normal burial. As for my family's perspective regarding people whom have died we all have different ways of seeing things so for me to actually bring to light all of these perspectives I would have to interview many different members of my family to fulfill that requirement.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
HW-45
I'm very happy that I was able to bring a very important subject into the clear for my readers. Although I personally think that my project wasn't the best and could of used more I'm glad that it was able to take my readers minds and enlighten them on just how to approach the dangers and benefits of both hospital and home birth. As well I would like to agree with one of my readers comments that in my third paragraph when i was discussing my bit about the hospital birthing processes that they were "misinterpreted" I agree because you have given me a secondary alternative to the result of the low number of home births. Now that you have enlightened me as well while bring up this point I also feel convinced that it in fact is a reason of lack of education that so few women are having home births because honestly almost every person that I have discussed my project with has little to no education on the topics in which I'm discussing.
Thank you for the comments readers.
Thank you for the comments readers.
HW 44-Comments On Other People's Project's.
Sam,
I first off i love the first sentence of your project especially where you said having a baby is "our deepest animal instinct". You covered many important ideas that matter when it comes to having a baby and how a families religion correlates within the decision making around having children or not. One aspect that stood out to me was the bit you were talking about in your 5th paragraph about how religious Americans actually are. I found it crazy how only 83 percent of Americans belong to some type of religious denomination. Something I would of liked to see you add to this project would be maybe a comparative section maybe comparing maybe a country like china's birthing information and statics to Americans. But overall great project.
-Brendan.
Allwyn,
I like how you first off chose topic of adoption which in your families case must of been very sad because your mother couldn't take your families friends baby. What you covered about adoption was very chilling for me as i read your second paragraph about unplanned pregnancy's. In this world a lot of people get pregnant and aren't ready for what comes 9 months later it was sad for me as you talked about the situations people go through within that paragraph. Something I feel you should fix with your project though is your grammar. When I first read the first paragraph I got confused a little about if you were talking about abortion or adoption for a second but overall you have a great project on Adoption.
-Brendan.
Amhara,
I liked your project especially because I feel it was more of a personal project about talking to your mother about her past births and her future one which god bless I hope goes well. Being that you enlightening her about birthing centers and midwives I found it interesting that she already knew about the these topics. But like others have said in the comments above I didn't really get solidly what your project was actually about and I would suggest you to add more to it to give people a clearer understanding of what you actually trying to get across.
-Brendan.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Hw 42-Pregnancy & Birth Culminating Project.
Today the average woman goes through a lot of decision making when it comes to making clear decisions on planning their own births. The biggest percentage of women in America take the most socially accepted root and just have their births experiences in regular hospitals. But there is methods of birthing that a wide majority of women also take part it called home birthing. Although there has been criticize in pitting the hospital birth and the home birth together they both have their downfall's and their own benefits.
If you look at your typical hospital scene today you see hundreds of women giving birth at all hours of the day every day. You don't see every day is the but a specific news station in Bakersfield took some polls and tallied them up and had this to say: " Though it doesn't appeal to all moms, some women prefer to deliver their babies in the peace and comfort of their own home. About one in 200 women in the United States gives birth at home, and about 75 percent of those delivers are low-risk single births that are planned in advance."(Parks) This piece of information just shows that there really is a good amount of women that actually take part in using their natural home birthing method and not everyone is taking the typical path of a hospital birth.
The whole aspect of having your birthing experience within a normal hospital I feel has been misinterpreted by most women of the United States for years. I mean look at your sisters mothers and grand mothers most likely they had their birthing experiences within regular hospitals and most likely they had a few bad experiences. For example my own family's women have all had hospital births and have had some terrible experiences with the doctors risky procedures and juiced up medicine. Here some information your average OBGYN doesn't want you to know:"The medical evidence about VBAC is actually clearer than some recent medical and media interpretations of it would suggest. Cesarean surgery is just as risky as any other major abdominal surgery for the mother-a considerably higher risk for her than vaginal birth. With repeat cesarean she has three times the chance of dying and roughly five times to ten times the risk of suffering complications from anesthesia; injuries to the bladder, intestines, or urethra; and future bowel obstructions, hysterectomy, ectopic pregnancies, infertility, and dangerous placental complications. The more cesareans a woman has, the more the risks to her increase."(Mays 294-295) VBAC is an acronym for vaginal birth after cesarean. This information here is saying that even having a natural vaginal birth is absolutely a much safer solution to having multiple cesarean back to back to give birth to their children. As well:" For over a generation, more than one fifth of U.S. women have had their babies by cesarean surgery."(Mays 294) With numbers like that, considering the amount of women that are actually getting cesarean surgery's there are going to be many women that are at the risk of falling ill or even losing their own life all for this risky method of birthing surgery. Overall what I'm trying to get across here is that hospitals aren't the only choice of a place for having your baby. Think about centuries ago when we didn't even have the technology we had today, a woman's only method of birthing was to give birth in their own homes and look where the human race is today, it's stronger then ever.
All that I'm really trying to get across here is that hospitals aren't your only choice of places of birthing and as well they aren't always the safest. Having your birthing experience at home the natural way is the way our race has been doing for thousands of years. Although both of these methods have their downfalls in some aspects I feel that having a home birth is significantly safer then having your birth in a regular hospital. As well even if you tweak the home birthing method a little bit by having doctors there or having a hospital near your home incase of emergencies couldn't hurt if you wanted to be on the safe side of things.
MLA Citations:
-Mays, Ina. Ina Mays Guide To Childbirth. 1st edition. New York City,NY: Bantam Dell A Division of Random House, Inc, 2003. 294-95. Print.
-Parks, Jackie. "Staying Healthy." Study Evaluates Home Birth Statics 07 July 2010: 1-1. Web. 14 Apr 2011. <http://www.turnto23.com/health/24174998/detail.html>.
If you look at your typical hospital scene today you see hundreds of women giving birth at all hours of the day every day. You don't see every day is the but a specific news station in Bakersfield took some polls and tallied them up and had this to say: " Though it doesn't appeal to all moms, some women prefer to deliver their babies in the peace and comfort of their own home. About one in 200 women in the United States gives birth at home, and about 75 percent of those delivers are low-risk single births that are planned in advance."(Parks) This piece of information just shows that there really is a good amount of women that actually take part in using their natural home birthing method and not everyone is taking the typical path of a hospital birth.
The whole aspect of having your birthing experience within a normal hospital I feel has been misinterpreted by most women of the United States for years. I mean look at your sisters mothers and grand mothers most likely they had their birthing experiences within regular hospitals and most likely they had a few bad experiences. For example my own family's women have all had hospital births and have had some terrible experiences with the doctors risky procedures and juiced up medicine. Here some information your average OBGYN doesn't want you to know:"The medical evidence about VBAC is actually clearer than some recent medical and media interpretations of it would suggest. Cesarean surgery is just as risky as any other major abdominal surgery for the mother-a considerably higher risk for her than vaginal birth. With repeat cesarean she has three times the chance of dying and roughly five times to ten times the risk of suffering complications from anesthesia; injuries to the bladder, intestines, or urethra; and future bowel obstructions, hysterectomy, ectopic pregnancies, infertility, and dangerous placental complications. The more cesareans a woman has, the more the risks to her increase."(Mays 294-295) VBAC is an acronym for vaginal birth after cesarean. This information here is saying that even having a natural vaginal birth is absolutely a much safer solution to having multiple cesarean back to back to give birth to their children. As well:" For over a generation, more than one fifth of U.S. women have had their babies by cesarean surgery."(Mays 294) With numbers like that, considering the amount of women that are actually getting cesarean surgery's there are going to be many women that are at the risk of falling ill or even losing their own life all for this risky method of birthing surgery. Overall what I'm trying to get across here is that hospitals aren't the only choice of a place for having your baby. Think about centuries ago when we didn't even have the technology we had today, a woman's only method of birthing was to give birth in their own homes and look where the human race is today, it's stronger then ever.
All that I'm really trying to get across here is that hospitals aren't your only choice of places of birthing and as well they aren't always the safest. Having your birthing experience at home the natural way is the way our race has been doing for thousands of years. Although both of these methods have their downfalls in some aspects I feel that having a home birth is significantly safer then having your birth in a regular hospital. As well even if you tweak the home birthing method a little bit by having doctors there or having a hospital near your home incase of emergencies couldn't hurt if you wanted to be on the safe side of things.
MLA Citations:
-Mays, Ina. Ina Mays Guide To Childbirth. 1st edition. New York City,NY: Bantam Dell A Division of Random House, Inc, 2003. 294-95. Print.
-Parks, Jackie. "Staying Healthy." Study Evaluates Home Birth Statics 07 July 2010: 1-1. Web. 14 Apr 2011. <http://www.turnto23.com/health/24174998/detail.html>.
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